THINNER REALLY IS BETTER!  I've been wanting to write this blog post for some time but had a huge deadline to get my taxes completed.  They aren't done yet but I've made great progress.  Thinner REALLY REALLY is better.   In fact it is SO MUCH BETTER that really I shouldn't have waited 20 years to lose all of this weight.  Now, I look back at photos of myself from just last year and wonder: WHAT WAS I THINKING???   WHY was anything more important than my health and taking the time out of my life to really focus on this area.

I feel healthier, stronger, more confident and way more balanced.  I eat more often and way healthier than ever before.  and I LOOK SO MUCH BETTER!   I am still getting used to life as a thin person and I get on the scale EVERY MORNING without fail.  I learn EVERY DAY what the results of yesterdays eating and either exercising or not exercising amounted to.  

<===SEE THE FAT PHOTO!  I recently found this photo of me on my birthday 2011. (the one to your left) I remember that morning...in Palm Springs...trying to figure out what I could actually wear.  Sighing loudly and feeling really awful about how big I felt that I looked.  I put something on...and bravely went into my day.  But, it was a turning point for me because i was thoroughly disgusted with myself and how I felt all puffy and heavy.   I was even holding my dog in front of me so that my size wouldn't be so noticeable but that's NOT how I really wanted to look.  I was having a good hair day and my innate aliveness apparent here but...there's that word...but....I knew that I was secretly holding myself and my potential in every area of my life back with my extra fat, flab, pounds and inches.    THINNER IS BETTER.  Don't kid yourself.  You are important.  Your daily diet is important.  DID YOU HEAR ME or do I have to come down there and take that Hagen Daze out of your chubby little fingers?   YOU, don't need the ice-cream, the chocolate, the sugar, the pasta, or the bread even if it did just come out of the oven and smells so good.  And for God's sake and yours stop thinking you can drink diet things with Aspartame, Sucralose, and Saccharin and lose weight.  It aint' going to happen.  Don't make me come down there....Make a commitment to stretch your "taking care of yourself muscle" today.

I've found that I really really feel so much better on days when i eat two large servings of green veggies (not just salad greens) and two pieces of lower carb fruits.   I am not tempted to eat bad things and I feel full.  I regularly make the time for my meals and snacks.  This is really important.  And, I notice that my meal really begins with the preparation of it.  NOT just the eating of it.

Cutting the onions, putting in the garlic, smelling it cooking...are just as important in the processas sitting down and consuming it.  Don't rip yourselves off of the ENTIRE food preparing and eating process folks.  Thinner really is better. I don't feel like I have to be concerned about style or accessories or compensating for bigger hips.  I save time by just knowing that my clothes will fit and I will look good, period.

I still have places to go in this journey.  As in getting into the gym and really working out all the muscle groups.  A goal is seeing how to define my muscles.  My skin has a ways to go to catch up with my weight loss as well.  I spoke last Friday in San Francisco at Servino's Restaurant for American Singles on How to FIND DRAMA-FREE RELATIONSHIPS in 2012.

See www.MyDramaFreeRelationship.com I had it videoed and wore the red sequin dress with red striped hose and kicking red patent high heels.  Stiletto's baby. I FELT GREAT!!

Was I beautiful when I was FAT?  Yes.  And THINNER is WAY BETTER.  So if you are reading this and feeling all sorry for yourself because you just don't think that YOU can lose weight too.  STOP all that mental bullshit right now.  Let me kick you in the seat of your pretty pants whatever size they are.  You need a support system and you need to  MAKE YOURSELF and your LIFE.  Your HEALTH, your WEIGHT, YOUR SIZE, all matter.   

I let stupid things get in my way and stupid thinking get in my way for years. I shed 9, NINE, NINE inches off of my hips.   Get a ruler out and look at what NINE INCHES LOOKS LIKE.  It ain't pretty.

Don't you let STUPID THINKING get in your way either.  Get support. Make time for yourself.  YOU ARE IMPORTANT! 

Discovering new foods that I can eat and really enjoy is one of my most fun pleasures.  Ask me about Mega Green Kale Crunchies by Lydia's Organics.  Yum.

Let me coach you.  Answer these questions:  Why is losing/shedding weight important to you?

In what ways (lol weighs) is your weight/size holding you back?    What do you imagine might even be possible for you, your love life, your health, and your career if/when you actually shed the weight? 

Love yourself enough to CARE about yourself.  Okay, enough preaching.  Back to my dang taxes.  Let me know if I am getting through to any of you who are faithfully reading.  Post a comment or two.